Make sure you keep telling the parent that you live with, the solicitors, the CAFCASS officer and the court how you feel about seeing your other parent, and how you feel before, during and after the visit. Sometimes it helps to write all this down. Unfortunately the parent you live with doesn’t have the power to make the court change its mind. Nonetheless, do talk to them about how you’re feeling – it’s important that they know this. And if you are hurt in any way when you have contact with the abusive parent, it’s very important that you tell someone you trust about this. Remember, abuse isn’t OK and you have a right to be safe.